MARRIAGE OF BIBLICAL STANDARD
Introduction:-
Marriage is like a Dark Cave. It becomes a Den of Lion to a spouse if either husband or wife is ignorant of the God’s purpose of marriage. If both the spouses fail in their responsibilities to their home, both become hungry Lions angry against each other in a very thinning Dark Cave but for the spouses that accommodate, embrace and acknowledge God and His mandates, their home would look like PARADISE of God.
THE MAIN PURPOSES OF MARRIAGE
The establishment of marriage was not merely done, it wasn’t unplanned, it is solemnly planned and established with divine goals, aims and objectives. Marriage was not inaugurated unreasonably, there are many reasons for the necessity of marriage. God reverently established marriage to provide befitting (or tolerable) welfare for Adam as a man and to perfect the creation of humanities and continuation of existence of humanities on earth. The main purpose of marriage inauguration based on the conducive living (welfare) of Male humans. The marriage targeted Adam to ease his existence in the beginning to enable him live comfortably on earth. God saw these three reasons (i. Companionship Enjoyments, ii. Sexual-Intercourse for Pleasure, iii. Humanities reproduction) as cogent and paramount reasons for the establishment of marriage.
Marriage Definition:-
Marriage is the God’s establishment, a union which involves a man and a woman to become husband and wife with mutual love and relationship launched by God to maintain life stand.
In the definition above, it is discovered that marriage is a union and the union comprises of only two persons of opposite sex each (i. e. a man and a woman). The definition also sees the marriage as an organisation that is inaugurated by God to remain healthy and strong until the death takes away either husband or wife and clarifies it that there should be manifestation of mutual love and relationship in humans’ marriage.
Significance of Marriage
For Companionship:- The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2: 18 (NIV). The most important reason for the establishment of marriage institution is for companionship (Genesis 2: 18) God discourages loneliness. God cherishes fellowship and friendship. Loneliness leads to hopelessness and depression which may results at hypertension and later to untimely death. Without companionship with Eve, Adam was liable to die young and all the efforts of God would be forfeited. So, He (God) encourages companionship with mutual love and healthy relationship within Adam and Eve and within all couples. Companionship in genuine love and healthy relationship are required by God from each humans’ couple and this symbolises the presence of God in each home.
Marriage is Launched to Enjoy Helping Hand:- Help (or assistance) is embedded in humans’ companionship with each other. The Lord God said, “ … I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2: 18 (NIV). For whom? For Adam. Who is Adam? The only first Male human created by God. Being an Assistant is an inaugurated ministry through The Most-High God right from the beginning. Helping (assistance or assisting) is a ministry and role of a junior person in the second position to make activities stress-free. God established marriage because He considered companionship as a means whereby the spirit of assistance could sentimentalize cooperation and division of labour for development and rapid progress in all endeavours in each home on earth. Be informed and understand that the existence of females is extremely important because without females, males are incomplete and imperfect. Importantly and compulsorily, females are essentially needed. If this earth would be conducive for living, females’ existence is required because without female, life on earth is meaningless therefore, God said as the scripture says:- It is not good for the man to be alone. ….. Genesis 2: 18 (NIV), this text serves as a clue that hinted God of what to do to achieve perfection. So, God confessed that he would make an assistant (… I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2: 18 (NIV) and He fulfilled His confession of creating a helper by creating Eve (Eve means female, or woman and meaning of female or woman is a helper or assistant). This implies that the creation of females plays a significant role since the beginning till now and even forever more. Therefore, the existence of females is a must and the females should know and understand the purpose of their existence and play their roles regularly, effectively and efficiently.
The scripture states that two persons are better than a person (Ecclesiastes 4: 9). And again, it is clearly known that two persons couldn’t be together unless they friend each other (Amos 3: 3). Companionship involves more than one person but without genuine love, it couldn’t be effectively (or successfully) involved and manifested in any home unless the couple each guide himself or herself against hatred and deceitfulness and do away from unfaithfulness. If a couple would be helping hand to each other, each of them should realise the paramount purpose of marriage (which is companionship) and the benefits of companionship (i. e. coming together) as husband and wife which are friendship, counselling each other, peaceful conversations, dialogues and discussions, comfort (or comforting each other) and other profitable interactions which could result at empowering genuine love between husband and wife for the pleasure and joy of mutual and genuine relationship in the home. They each should consider genuine love as the base upon which their marriage would be erected. And they each should always be manifesting their genuine love through mutual and healthy relationship in their home.
Sexual-Intercourse for Pleasure:- Both Sexual-Intercourse and reproduction involved the same process but they are different from each other. Reproduction is the desire and act of making copies by having sexual-intercourse with opposite sex. It could also mean duplicating. It is the act of making resemblance and likeness of human beings. As the Sexual-Intercourse is a procedure for reproduction, it is also the base of love in each Happy Matrimonial Home because the Lord God had initiated both Adam and Eve as husband and wife into the love of sexual-intercourse since the beginning ( this is the Lord God’s pronouncement on Adam and Eve in the scripture – To the woman he (God) said, “….. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” – Genesis 3:16 (NIV).
So, Sexual-Intercourse is an edible meal (but not through mouth) for husband and wife alone, it is a delicious food when husband and wife alone are together. Sexual-Intercourse is as well drinkable water for husband and wife alone, drinkable water from the couple’s well which no spouse should allow any external fellow to enjoy (Proverbs 5: 1 – 23). Sexual-Intercourse creates room for healthy rapport and mutual relationship. Constant Sexual-Intercourse heals many sicknesses and illnesses, sexual-intercourse flourishes couples in their lifetime. Sexual-Intercourse encourages joy, happiness and pleasure. Sexual-Intercourse is poisonous to those who are yet to get married, it is also abomination to practise Sexual-Intercourse outside marriage but it is honey in the honeymoon for couples whenever they are hungry and thirsty of it. Honeymoon is for only male and female who had being in marriage since the first day of marriage till the end of their life. God knows and understands male’s nature of sexual-intercourse that Adam couldn’t live without sexual-intercourse and He (God) created Eve as opposite sex for the pleasure of sexual-intercourse for Adam. Apostle Paul in his teaching encourages male and female to marry when necessary and he or she who had already got married should not separate from each other to avoid immorality (I Corinthians 7: 1 – 11). Sexual-Intercourse between husband and wife is extremely important as their regular practice but fornication and adultery are abominations to man and God.
For Human Reproduction:- First of all, the paramount importance of the effort of God in the creation of the earth is to strengthen the continuity of the existence of the earth including all other natures within it so that the God would always be glorified continually. The Lord God understood that male alone could not reproduce without female, without reproduction of humanities, the natures would not be valued to be appreciated, if the natures are not valued to be appreciated, God the Creator of all wouldn’t be acknowledged and glorified. To enable all the natures (both living and non-living creatures) have values and be useful, God saw the reason to establish marriage.
For the scripture says:- So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” – Genesis 1: 27 – 28 (NIV), the inauguration of marriage by God is even more important and superior to the creation of Adam alone. Because the creation of Adam alone could not multiply human beings on earth, it is the sexual-intercourse agreement between Male and female (husband and wife) which could result at reproduction is the only way of sustaining the existence of humanities on earth. If human beings are not being multiplying, the natures and the structures of the earth would not be appreciated and God also would not be acknowledged.
God therefore made Adam to be man and Eve through a rib (bone) from Adam’s body side to be a woman and wife to Adam for the purpose of coming together, lying (or sleeping) together and bear children. A purpose of marriage is to produce more human beings to spread on earth to rule over all other creatures of God. To sustain the glory of God in His creatures, God needs uncountable human beings to spread all over and dominate all His creatures side by side. As the God created Adam and Eve in His own image, God blessed and empowered Adam and Eve as husband and wife to be a source of human reproduction and multiplication (Genesis 1: 28) to appreciate the work of God and to acknowledge God in His glorious efforts of creation and to exalt the Most-High in His splendour. Many people got married but it is a pity that not all the couples are blessed with the fruits of the womb.
Conclusion:-
God had laid down the main three reasons why a male and female should become husband and wife of each other namely:-
i. for the reason of companionship,
ii. for the purpose of enjoying Sexual-
Intercourse between husband and wife (not
outside the marriage) and
iii. for the importance of humans’ reproduction.
No couple (husband and wife) should deviate from the God’s laid down reasons. Each couple should identify and understand why marriage is inaugurated by God and some reasons for becoming husband and wife should also be well understood and each spouse compares your own personal reasons of entering into marriage with that of God. If the reasons for getting married of a person contradict the reasons of God for marriage establishment, such person had gone astray in the marriage, he or she has become an agent of threat in his or her marriage and home, the husband or wife who has become threat in his or her marriage is a devil, anti-peace, anti-progress, a destroyer of the work of God and enemy of God. Both husband and wife in marriage are advised to solemnly live together in the mandates of the Lord God Almighty and be operating under the leadership of the holy spirit.
Shalom.
Written
By
Adedokun N. Adeseun
BIBLE-BASED BAPTIST CHURCH,
Ilero Road, Iganna,
Iwajowa Local Government Area,
Oke-Ogun Zone of Oyo State,
Nigeria.
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